Help for online stalking

 

Tips for self-care when suffering online stalking/hacking

1. Never let them know you are scared; do not publicly admit fear.

2. Keep a diary in your phone’s notes app detailing what happened. Ensure the notes are password protected.

3. Keep screenshots of every weird error message/technical issue (sabotage is their game, emotional terror their aim). The law will eventually catch up. Hold onto your evidence. It will help convict them.

4. Get tech secure:
- Use a VPN (Proton VPN is very easy and good)
- Antivirus
- Malwarebytes – run them daily.
- Know that your stalker is very likely to see all your posts wherever they are.
- Be very cautious of the Nextdoor app—only use it for local services, post nothing personal.
- Educate the perps and the public with posts about law, happiness, and psychology. Keep it grounded.

5. Ensure you have at least one person to confide in in real life.

6. Use the phone to talk to support services.

7. Assume you have no friends online. People online like to see dramas. Avoid drama at all costs. Abusers love it if you react or show vulnerability.

8. If you must ask for advice publicly, use a secure, anonymised private email address, and try Reddit for useful forums. Lots of trolls though. There are a lot of criminals online who love to hurt people. Be mindful but not paranoid.

9. Clear your caches. Clear your cookies. Clear your history. Change your password often—every few days or so should help. Check your logins on LinkedIn, Facebook, Outlook, etc. Stalkers and hackers leave a trail of their logins to your account. Log that in your notes and screenshot it all.
- Check 'permissions' in Google. Remove unnecessary ones.
- Never act on anything at all when scared.
- Deep breaths, take a break from the machine.
- Reclaim your space by engaging your senses: walk, sing, eat, dance, enjoy nature.
- Remember the three C's: Cool, Calm, Collected

10. Buy a treadmill! Force yourself to walk 3× a day. You may not feel up to walking outside much yet. An electric treadmill is affordable and a very healthy option.

11. Empower yourself. Sign up for psychology courses:
- Free at Alison
- Low-cost, accredited ones at Udemy

12. Get health aware. Share health-related items and learn as much as you can about your own health. Channel your emotions into positive actions.

Helpful organisations:
- Suzy Lamplugh Trust – Stalking support & advocacy
- Paladin – National Stalking Advocacy Service
- Women’s Aid – Help for women facing abuse
- Cyber Civil Rights Initiative – Online abuse & image-based abuse support
- Tech Safety – NNEDV – Digital safety tools for abuse survivors
- Victim Support (UK) – Help for anyone affected by crime

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