Charles Spencer - A True Hero

 Charles Spencer- A Brave and True Hero


On an Old Blog Called 'Mother 4 Justice'

Years ago, on a blog I ran called Mother 4 Justice, I uploaded a short video. It wasn’t glossy or rehearsed—it was raw, real, and it mattered. In it, I asked young men—public schoolboys, Eton types, I mentioned the Bullingdon Club—to take a stand. I wanted them to speak, plainly and on camera, against child sexual abuse.

Why them? Because they were the ones so often shielded by institutions. Because private schools and elite clubs carry both power and silence. Because some of them would inherit platforms, or already had them, and I believed some might use that power to help break the great taboo.

What triggered me at the time was something subtle, yet chilling. In the film Four Weddings and a Funeral, there's a character—charming, eccentric, a bit of comic relief—who casually remarks that he was "buggered senseless" at school. It’s tossed in like a joke. The audience is meant to laugh. But I couldn’t.

Because it wasn’t funny. It was telling. A window, briefly opened, into the grim reality so many endure in silence. That line—a throwaway in the script—echoed something I already suspected: that elite abuse is not only widespread, but culturally normalised and buried under generations of British politeness, dark humour, and institutional complicity.

I wanted to invite them into truth. To model a new kind of masculinity—accountable, compassionate, brave. I don’t know if that video ever made a ripple, it was quite hidden. But I do know I tried. I asked the next generation to speak up where the last remained mute.

And I still believe we must keep asking. Not just public schoolboys. All of us.

It's not easy talking about such abuse, it is retraumatising and you risk attack from sadists. Spencer became "unwell" writing his book "A Very Private School" - testament to his bravery. Good on you Charles. More like you would be most welcome.


Liz Lucy Robillard 





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